What a 34 -year -old man thinks while doing housework and childcare.A childcare leave column that spells out the mistakes and excitement that does not appear in the so -called dad's textbooks.
Two people who collide.※The photograph is an image
Good morning, Ryo Morita (34) of ASCII ASCII.It is time for the childcare column "Entering Men's Childcare leave" on Wednesday.The baby born on February 22 will be 6 months old next week.It has been a two -month childcare leave for the baby, and the serialized articles that have begun to write have been continued for half a year.Thank you for reading everyone.
It is said that who said, the latter half of life is called "half birthday", and the glittering DM of the photo studio decorates "1/2" is flying into the mailbox.I don't know if I would take a picture, but to commemorate the half birthday, I looked back on my first six months of child care.
My wife is 41 years old this year (currently on childcare leave).She talked for about an hour and made it a manuscript, and she became roughly 10,000 characters and felt like Rockin'on Japan.If you read it when you have time, I think it will be a little childcare or a reference for building human relationships.
★ Motoki 1. Goodness & badness during childcare leave 2. Goodness & evil after returning to work 3. Dissatisfaction with wife → husband 4. Dissatisfaction with husband → Wife's fun and painful 6. Improve each otherShoulder
■ Goodness & evil during childcare leave
My husband Morita.I would like to look back on my first childcare today.
What should I do, it's a bad idea to say that I'm so selfish.
I think my husband may be selfish.Shall we go from the childcare leave period, which is also a serial title?First of all, please check the overview of male childcare leave.
● Male childcare leave acquisition rate is about 3 % male childcare leave rate 3.16 % women's childcare leave acquisition rate 81.8 % ● Depending on the industry, the acquisition rate is different from the acquisition and insurance business 12.33 % information communication industry 6.01 % electricity, gas, and water supply 0.89 % ● Large companies500 or more 2.98 % 30-99 people 3.22 % 30 or more 3.39 % 3.39 % 3.39 %: Ministry of Health, Labor and Welfare "2016 Equal Basic Survey"
My husband was like this.Financial systems are relatively high.
My wife.Certainly, some industries are originally difficult to take a break.
Her husband, but there are still minorities who take childcare leave in Japan.Meanwhile, he took childcare leave for two months, but was it good to take it?
I think my wife was good.In the first place, when I told Mori -chan, "What if I took (childcare leave)?", I didn't think it would be such a difficult thing for a man to take it.
Is it really my husband?Is it because 80 % of women are taking?
My wife hmm.Certainly, there is a man who has taken (childcare leave).If I took two months in the company who had no childcare leave at the company, I was told that I was disgusted after returning ... but I heard a story like, but Mori -chan definitely wants to do it!I thought.
What is the type you want to do?
I thought I would be interested in the unknown creatures of my wife and baby.That's why it's a bit disgusting.
My husband is a great tone ... I certainly gave birth, and if it looks interesting, I feel like I experienced everything.That personality was read.
My wife is right.It's a record magic.
My husband had a long diary since pregnancy, so I didn't give birth.
My wife, I'm taking pictures.
Even my husband was actually told, "Why don't you take childcare leave?"She had no chance to shake "no precedent".When she talks about that, she says, "Women take childcare leave for granted."
My wife and women do not recover immediately.As I experienced, as soon as the maternity leave was over, in a few months, there are still many breastfeeding times, and even if it is made into milk to some extent, the body is so tight.The boobs are getting stuck.So I think it's very burdensome to return soon.
My husband's puerperium period is the first month, but after that, I can't do anything right away.She was told by a teacher, "I'm coming after my wife's childbirth."
I think it would be natural to return for half a year or one year for recovery of my wife.
Surely my husband.So what was the best thing about taking childcare leave?
My wife, after all, I was very helpful to have housework.
Really my husband.
Especially for the first month of my wife.In the second month, there was a stress that could not go out, so I felt a feeling of liberation when I was able to go out alone and go to her favorite shop (entrusted my baby to her husband).
Like my husband fashionable cafe.I also like alcohol, but I was scared for the first 3-4 weeks and didn't drink at all, so I had a feeling of liberation when I first drank it.At that time, I thought, "What if I get drunk and drop my baby?"
I was really happy to be able to do it because I really liked to find a delicious shop.
My husband's dissatisfaction is often the problem of "Husband Teme drinking party and konoyalo", but I didn't have any of them.I didn't have that much time in housework and childcare.
There was such a story in my mother's classroom during my wife pregnant, saying, "I'm not worried about going to a drinking party normally even though my birth is close and the scheduled date has passed."So, the midwife talked like, "I don't know the man unless you say it."
My husband and I took a long -term nursing leave, and my feelings switched to housework and childcare, so I just lost my choice of drinking.If it was at least 3-5 days of childcare leave, I would have gone to the company immediately after giving birth, and if I was invited, I felt that I would go drinking normally.
It seems that there is a wife's birth celebration.
There is a husband.
Isn't it a stupid wife?I'm busy!
Even if I say my husband stupid.
It would be difficult for my wife to refuse.Her boss will come.
Her husband well.Returning to the story, the housework was useful as such.
My wife was just written in the article, but I was so nervous that I did too much housework.I want you to have fun, but it's like "Ah, hi, I'm sorry."
I'm afraid to apologize for my husband ... but it's serious to do too much housework.The baby is not going to be more serious.It's tingling?I think, "One housework is my baby's life ...".
Even my wife was cramped.
My husband is right ...
I felt that my wife was cramped for 24 hours with others.It may be my personality, but she felt like she wanted to be alone.
My husband might have been a good idea.
My wife Well, only one of them is dissatisfied, mostly.
■ Goodness & evil after returning to work
After taking two months of childcare leave from March in March, I returned to work after Golden Week.The work hours and housework shared after returning to work are like this.
● Working hours 9: 00-1: 10: 00 Return home from 20:00 to 21:00
My husband, I was worried that it would be difficult for childcare.I know how hard I am doing my own housework and childcare during childcare leave, so I wonder if I will do that almost alone every day.
My wife, but I don't want to do housework perfectly.Mori -chan doesn't say anything like "I'm not making it" even if it's wrong.If you say that kind of husband, it's a big genka every day, but if you say "I don't make anything", I will buy something.I eat the sushi I bought alone.
Can I eat my husband sushi alone?
I wanted to eat one wife.She is good.
Even my husband, it's a fierce muzu to make rice by the time I return.In fact, I'm going home for 20 to 21:00, but at that time I'm just sleeping.
My wife, I can't move at all.And my baby doesn't really sleep during the day.
I don't sleep.There is no concept of taking a nap.
If you sleep for an hour sometimes, you can get ready for breakfast.
When I hear that my husband else says, "I'll sleep for 2-3 hours," I think if there is so much, the housework will be better.But there are some places where it doesn't make sense to say it because it's an individual difference.Childcare is all, but Yoso is Yoso, and our house is my house.
Because I'm a wife, I don't have to clean it, Morita -kun vacuums it, and I'm divisible.Even if you are cooking, you can eat natto on rice for lunch.Breakfast also uses a co -op ingredient kit.A little expensive.But it starts working together, and even if the food expenses are a little increased, you should give priority to being in a good mood.
Her husband's housework has begun to divide according to her baby's behavior.Have you ever been unable to do so after childcare leave?
My wife is my work.I'm on childcare leave, but the editors are closely working and private, or something will be contacted.There are inquiries from the writer, and the announcement of the event comes.But you can't get one email reply.
My baby will cry in one minute if I know she's left alone.
I put a bouncer in front of my wife toilets, putting a baby in front of the door, and keeping the door open."Saisa -ta" or song.
Surely my husband ... When I take a bath, I feel like I have a bouncer sitting.I always went to the bathroom backwards with my eyes on my eyes.Like going out, the actions are always centered on the baby.
I was with my wife and baby, and my destination has changed.Some shops, like a ramen shop, are difficult to enter if you have a baby.If you don't come back, you'll get a rush home, or your sleep will be slow, and the range and location will change.
It's a husband, and the day is over in no time.After returning to work, I am short of sleep, and my baby's crying calls and sleeps shredded.So I want to sleep from 22:00 to 23:00, but then I have been reading books and doing personal computers, and my hobbies are almost gone.
My wife is right.I can't see Hulu at all.
My husband Hulu.During my childcare leave, I had a baby holding a baby and saw "Hunter x Hunter" on Hulu all day.Like the recording, I didn't see the drama and things.I came to see a single thing like a documentary or a childcare program.It seems that the whole life has been adjusted around the baby overall after returning to work.
■ Wife → dissatisfaction with husband
My husband is finally "dissatisfied with her husband."I'm scared.
My wife Hoho ~.
Such a ranking was listed in "NEWS Post Seven" in my husband Shogakukan.
★ Child -rearing mom "dissatisfaction with husband" ranking 1st place I don't think it's natural for moms to raise children!2nd place Play with your child!3rd place Do yourself yourself!4th place I understand that it is difficult to raise children!5th place Please give me the time of one person!6th place help more housework!7th place Thanks!8th place Come back early!Listen to 9th place (complaints)!10th place Do not pamper your child!Source: News Post Seven
Wow, wow, if you have such a husband, you can't help but get stuck.
Husband A, what about me there?No dissatisfaction?100 points?
My wife ... do you really think so?
Husband No, I'm going to do whatever I can ...
My wife Well, even if I am dissatisfied, it's a more advanced dissatisfaction.What is written here is too basic.I think Morita -kun is doing his best, but I am the most important thing about "Suimasen, Suimasen" right away.
My husband, even that's because I'm scared.If you are scared, you will apologize, as a defense reaction."Suimasen! Please forgive me! I'll do anything!"
My wife I don't apologize.I will fight.
Husband warrior ...Conversely, is the only dissatisfaction "Suimasen habit"?
My wife and the feeling of asking about the complexion of people are unpleasant.
My husband is already a personality.
My wife is a detailed place, but I'm just hugging when my baby is crying.Let's devise more.
I'm doing something.I'm devising, but I don't stop crying.
Is it really my wife?If you follow the babi for a day, wouldn't it increase in variations?
There are some places where my husband certainly observes crying."Oh, I'm crying."So I sometimes return to me when I say, "I'm crying!"
My wife has a lot of half a day or Morita -kun and go out with her baby, but I'm worried about what I'm doing in that case.
My husband is when I can't go by even if I'm crying.I dry the laundry.
My wife is calling by name."I'm there!" "Wait 30 seconds!"So, "I was a good boy!"
Do you communicate with your husband?There are places where I don't try to communicate that I don't know.I have you listen to the song.
My wife, when I'm worried about my baby, I think I should give a word like "Is it okay?"
Do you have the cushion?
I have a wife.So I wonder what she is doing at work.
If my husband says, for example, if you say, "There is such a task," a no -cassion, "I see, why don't you do this project?"
My wife is not right."Oh, is that so?""In fact, for this reason" or "There is a change in the market."
It feels like a business that can be a husband ...
I guess it's normal or normal.She doesn't talk about work.That's about it!
■ Husband → dissatisfaction with wife
My husband ended with a bitterness, but then I was dissatisfied with my wife.
Is there such a wife?(Jito eyes)
I have a husband, surprisingly ...
My wife is surprised.
My husband is an excerpt from "BABY-MO 2017 Spring / Summer".
★ dissatisfaction with my wife ◎ There are too many times when I'm in a bad mood.Shock and help are cold ... I just want to get along well, but Source: BABY-MO 2017 Spring / Summer
I wonder if the word "help" is a grumpy in a word.In the morning, when I wash my face in the washroom and come back, I'm not in a grumpy.
My wife is right?I think there are all reasons.
My husband, for example, I was holding my baby, my baby drooled, and my gauze handkerchief fell on my feet ...
My wife, it's crazy!I remembered!I think, "Even if you hold your baby, you can pick up what you fall at her feet!"
My husband and that's there are there, and if you hold a baby, it's hard to sit down and you can pick it up.
My wife is sweet.It's sweet.Because it's right in front of you.
If your husband is in the same position, you say "take it", right?
I sometimes say my wife, but you say, "Can you take it a little?"Mori -chan says, "Oh, handkerchief ...".What is a handkerchief?
How to say husband ... That's like this.To straight, the corner ...
I can't stand my wife!
I'm scared of my husband's "take".It feels like "take it fast," and it's like a command, it's like an order.
My wife is not like that.
Husband and that too.
What is my wife?Is there still?
My husband When I entrust my baby to me, she gets into my own world completely.Take a bath or return your work email.In that case, this is as if you were two and two.If you talk a little, you will be jammed ...
It feels like a wife super jam."Can't you do Gaman for 30 minutes?"
Even my husband talks about it, even when I'm working.
My wife Mori -chan can work at work.
Husband: Isn't it sloppy under the same conditions?
When my wife says, "Don't talk," it's time to really want to concentrate.At that time, I can't hear it if I can talk with a small voice ... that's right!Dissatisfied with her husband!The voice is small!
My husband is a corner of dissatisfaction with my wife ...
I can't even hear my wife.But I told her mother.She said, "Morita -kun's voice is small and frustrating."Then she said, "It's a born voice, so I'm sorry to say that.""But it's the theater club."
It is completely different from the husband stage.But I guess there's anything written on Baby-Mo, "I'm angry even if I do my best in housework and childcare."The way is angry, unlike her wife.
My wife, isn't that kind of self -satisfaction, "I'm doing it," isn't it what the other person is asking for?According to my friend, "taking a bath is to do it until you can sleep!"Just what.
My husband, but I don't think I will explain the process.Don't you hate explanation too much?
My wife is not like that?
My husband is a lie, it's really troublesome.For example, if you don't care very much, don't you want a tutorial that "bath events include these achievement conditions?"But when I say that ...
Wow, it's troublesome.
Husband ... not.
My wife is like that.I have to explain from 1 to 10.
Even my husband, if it's the job I want to do, can't I do it?
My wife is always doing it.She doesn't do it.
My husband may be, but if you work, you'll say, "Why didn't you do this?"
My wife says, "I'm sorry, I can't work."
My husband is tough ...
My wife may have helped Morita because there is no such thing.
■ Fun and sadness of childcare
It is a sparkling story of childcare when I was dissatisfied with my husband.I've been talking about being happy but painful for children to grow up recently.
My wife is too cute, it gets bigger and bigger!That's it.
My husband grows like another person every month.
At first I was thinking of raising my childcare leave in less than a year and returning to work, but I don't know if I want to round up my childcare leave or not.Well, there is no vacancy even if you apply for a nursery school.Baby food has just begun, and I want to do it myself as much as possible.
In my husband, I may have taken childcare leave, but I feel that my time to contact my baby after returning to work is short.
My wife, oh, maybe.
My husband is almost only morning.At night, she returns to sleep.If this starts going to a nursery school, it will be shorter.The morning time is really only a moment.
My wife is right.At first, when I was visiting a nursery school, I was just concerned about the presence or absence of extended childcare, but now I have come to think that I should change my work style without extension.
My husband has a feeling that it is lonely that there is nothing I can't do.
My wife hmm?
When I was a newborn, I couldn't express my emotions and I couldn't move.At first, my eyesight was weak and I could only see the distance of about 20-30cm, but now I will look at here from a few meters.Words don't say Waywayer if you come to speak in the same word.Such joy and freshness of becoming a human live together.
My wife is right.That's the same volume as the joy.I'm moving step by step step by step.I think it's amazing, but I think it's Samishi.
I'm looking at my husband's panda babies, but I think mammals are all babies.But I think the baby's baby is really short, and soon it turns into a human child.
My wife is in no time ...Immediately after I was born, I thought, "Oh, I can't see where you can be a grandfather."At first, it is because of the hormone, the swing of the heart is large, so Samishi!What?
My husband, on the contrary, is the smile that I am most looking forward to in childcare.
My wife, it's cute.
For the first time with a smile called Nicoh, I felt like I was a parent or fun.At first, when he was a newborn, he had no expression, so he was cute, but he didn't have any humanity, and she looked like a goldfish she had used in the past ...
My wife is sure, like fish or insects, there was no communication.
When my husband smiles there, "Oh, it's communication!"
I wake up while laughing in my wife morning.Looking at the happy face, when I grow up, I think, "Oh, it's going to be in the morning today ...", but it's really different, there's something I remember.
My husband is impressive.
My wife is really enthusiastic about trying and learning a lot of things, and once I keep doing it, I will be able to do it for a few days.Everything may not apply to studying and work, but maybe humans are really such creatures.
I was hugging outside my husband, I took the leaves of the plant, took it, looked at it, and was impressed when I thrown it away.I thought, "What is this?"This person is trying to reach his hand and know about this world.
My wife Recently, I have already rotated from a prone state and turned direction.
Some of them are interested.
My wife, "I'm going to aim for this!"That's amazing.
It was written that the "baby sign" introduced in the article in front of my husband will start from about 7 to 8 months, so you will be able to communicate with symbols.
I'm looking forward to my wife!But Samishi!
■ Points to improve each other
I've been talking about my husband for a long time, but I will look back on half a year and tell each other what I want to change in my future life.First of all, I'm a scary place.
My wife?
I'm afraid that my husband, "I'm going to do that," is said to be thrown away.
My wife?？
Her husband, aside from the tone, the explosion at the time of the illness was really amazing, and there were times when the baby was scared.I would be scared if there was it in the future, so I want to fix it.If I can do what I can, I want to work together.
I feel like my wife.It's my weakness, or a drawback.
My husband is really doing my best and I think it's amazing.Even if you communicate with your baby, you can't manage your love.It's not the difference between men and women, but as a human being, I'm good at expressing love.
Shouldn't my wife praise more usually?That sort of.
Husband No, well ... yes.I'll do my best.How about that?
My wife's voice is loud.
It doesn't matter about my husband's childcare ...
My wife, after all, it is stressful to return all conversations.I wondered why, but Mori -chan is the only child, so no matter how small she speaks, her parents don't hear "What?"I thought I couldn't do that.
I wonder if there is a husband's only child ...
If my wife is a small voice, I think it would be nice to talk to me in a small voice, talk about it, and then talk!
In your husband, let's start with each other for the first birthday of the baby.
* * *
I talked to my wife about childcare.I hope it will be a little helpful for everyone.
Also, this was unexpected, but when I talked about it, it was solved that I felt that I was feeling frustrated with the other person, and it was effective to organize my feelings.
Both babies and us will really change in just six months.I thought it might have been just a good idea to open a meeting to convey my feelings in order to keep up with our feelings in the speed of tremendous changes.
It is good to cut the masking tape into a "1/2" shape and take a cute photo, but it may be a good idea to take a little longer time and look back half a year.If you have been able to do it, please let us know your impressions on Twitter or FacBook.
The next column on August 23 and August 30 is closed.See you again in September.
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